To the Daddy who forgot his baby in his car …
I’m not here to judge you. I’m not here to bring you down any further than you already are at this point.
As a mom, I know how easily it is to forget things. I am a mother, I was born with a maternal instinct and I too know that mistakes can be made. I have found myself too often with a car full of kids, an infant too quiet to be noticed and thought for a split second that I may have left him at home. Just to realize he is in his car seat sleeping so peacefully that I too didn’t even realize it.
I am also a wife. A wife to a husband. A wife to a daddy. I am a wife to the daddy of my children that has been a parent longer than I have. You see, this husband of mine lives in the moment. He thinks in the moment. Whatever is in front of him is what’s got his interest. He gets it honestly, it’s just who he is. I know that never in a million years he would intentionally forget them or do anything to harm them. But what I do know is this. He was not born with a maternal instinct. He is not a mamma. He does not know what it’s like to account for his kids every single second of a day. Like I said, it’s just who he is. Do I think that he would ever forget one of his kids in his truck? No. Do I think that such an unimaginable thing could happen to him? Yes. The reality of it is this: it could happen to anyone. It could very well happen to me with that quiet little infant sleeping in the back seat.
In this season of life, I wish now more than ever that social media didn’t exist. As if you didn’t already lose something so grand to you, now you’ve got everyone chiming in on how you didn’t love her. How you are worthless. How you didn’t deserve her. Well, I’m not here for that. I don’t know you. I don’t know your past. I don’t know what led up to that terrible day. But I do know that you are a human. We all are. All of us are capable of just as much as the other.
Today, my heart hurts for that sweet baby that is no longer here with us. My heart hurts for your family. My heart hurts for the world we live in today. My heart hurts for you. From deep down, it hurts so bad.
As a parent, I know you’ve lost a part of yourself. There is nothing that will ever replace that missing piece. My one hope today is that you and your family find peace in this terrible time.
Thanks Cassie you really blessed me !
This was just beautiful and shared with love I felt it… what’s from the heart reaches the heart. The Mercers are dear friends of our family the mother of the baby and our daughter attended middle and high school together and are best friend. The father taught our granddaughter as well ! Please keep them in your prayers! Very sweet family that loves each other and there beautiful girl dearly. God Bless you and your family.
I truly thank you for your understanding that this father honestly did not mean for for this to happen. As a Mother who lost a her only child, even though I got to spend 21 years with her, I live with this everyday, thinking if I could have done something, anything at all, my baby would still be here. I carry this with me everyday. Truly, I hope the system doesn’t convict this father because he will be on agony everyday as long as he lives. I pray that this father gain some type of understanding and ask God for forgiveness. I pray for the whole family.
That was beautiful ?
Thanks Cassie for your words, some of them my own. I too sometimes wish social media didn’t exist, however it’s here and I try to be mindful of what I say and do because it could somehow end up I here. I pray this family can heal from this tragedy.
This it’s very thoughtful and heartfelt! They desperately need this type of support during this time!!! I’ll make sure she reads this❤️
This is beautiful and a wonderful article, very inspiring, it can happen to anyone
Well said, thank you
Beautiful everyone is always so quick to judge a person guilty before proven innocent or guilty. This needs to Stop the Family is already hurting why add to the hurt and pain. My God hold the future and the past so Jesus Christ is the ultimate JUDGE so nothing else matters.
Cassie,
These heartfelt words are truly outstanding! I can’t imagine what they are going through. I know that thoughts such as yours probably helps more than you would ever imagine. I agree with you on the social media. I call it social media courage because others would not otherwise make the statements that they do. I read your article twice and I would like to say thank you for sharing those words.
Kudos to you Cassie. I couldn’t have said it better.
I agree to everything that you said. Mr. Mercer keep your head up and know that their is only one man in this world who can judge you and that is God. My heart goes out to you and your wife and your family. KEEP GOD FIRST AND HE WILL BRING YALL THROUGH THIS!