You’re Not Alone Mama
Life has a funny was of throwing curveballs at us. Not everything always goes as planned. Jobs are lost. People breakup or divorce. Loved ones pass on. None of us are immune. Eventually something will happen that turns our lives upside down and all around. Our human experience is disappointing sometimes, there’s no denying it. Days filled with tragedy that force us to examine the things that really matter. So how do we proceed with grace? How do we look at these obstacles put in front of us and continue on to live another day?
Do we lean on our villages, hoping for a shoulder to cry on? What if we don’t have villages? What if our villages consist of people also going through tough times, and we don’t want to pass on our burden to them? Do we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and fight through? I’ll be the first to admit that this is usually my course of action. I’m not proud to say most of the time I push things down, I don’t deal with them. Eventually though, going that route forces us to push things to the surface and handle them in ways we never expected.
Often times this leads to being so overwhelmed that we eventually explode.
It’s a fine line. As moms, our mental health usually takes a back seat to whatever we have going on in life. We have a tendency to put ourselves and our needs at the very bottom of the totem pole. That’s a shame isn’t it? We’ve been so conditioned by society to just keep going, no matter what. The problem with that is that it’s not feasible, it’s not healthy, and eventually our struggles with ourselves will spill over into the lives of our children.
This life is tough. Hard times don’t care about your feelings, how you look, your socioeconomic status. We spend all of our time taking care of others, but who takes care of us?
I know I’m not alone in my feelings. There’s nothing I can say, no advice I can give to make life easier. Just know that if you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone. I see you, sister.
