“Ride or die- When you are willing to do anything for someone you love or someone you really appreciate in your life; the person who you stand by in any problem and vice versa” (Urban Dictionary)
When it comes to girlfriends, I consider myself very lucky. I’m still best friends with the girl who was my next-door neighbor from the time I was 3 or 4. I have an amazing group of women that I’ve considered friends since elementary and high school. I have become part of a wonderful group of friends since joining our school and church parish here in Baton Rouge. I’m even super close to my mom. But I met my “ride or die” in college. We’re both from the same small town but we went to different high schools. We had a lot of classes together because she majored in History and minored in Political Science, and I was doing the opposite. Looking back, I can’t remember exactly how or when we started hanging out, but I’m so thankful we did.
She has now been a part of my life for about fifteen years. We have been through a lot: graduations, marriages, divorces, having children and more. Through everything, she has always been a source of positivity in my life. She’s not all talk either; she shows up. I have never hesitated to share my deepest, darkest secrets with her. I am completely secure in her loyalty to me. And what a rare treasure that is! Especially in today’s world of oversharing on social media, etc. I am sure there have been times that she has disapproved of my actions, but she has never made me feel like a bad person. Even when I haven’t been proud of myself, she finds a way to be proud of me…or at least make me feel less sh*tty about myself.
We don’t get to spend as much time together now that we live in different towns and I am soon to have four small children, but we make it a point to chat on the phone every couple of weeks and sooner of course if we’re having a problem or if we simply need to vent. I know who I’m calling if I ever need to bury a body. I sincerely hope she can say the same things about me. And I hope everyone has a “ride or die” in their lives.