I’ve always been the type of person that had absolutely no idea what to do or say when a loved one was hurting. I’ve always felt absolutely useless in these situations and as if I needed to step aside and let an adult handle it. Here are some things that stuck with me during a time I needed help:
Don’t try to fill the silence.
My best friend once said, “There’s not anything you can say to make it better, but there’s a lot you can say to make it worse.”
Just let her be sad, hurt, angry, etc. It’s kind of selfish to fill silence just because you’re uncomfortable anyway, right?
Buy a houseplant.
Even if a mom thinks she has...
“Babies are a blessing” is a phrase that always rings true, but I have to say, especially true during a pandemic. As we approach the anniversary of the pandemic, we also start to celebrate the lives of all the babies born during these “unprecedented times,” as they say. And although there were some things we grieved about giving birth during the pandemic, like not seeing most friends and families up close, drive-by baby showers, and challenging hospital regulations, many mamas agree that there have been beautiful and precious things about giving birth in the past year, besides the obvious beauty and wonder of having a baby in general.
Time slowed down
Our pandemic baby is our third. I feel like generally...
“Take the picture.” This is something I’ve heard and read in so many places over the years. It’s true. For most of my life, I was the obnoxious friend or family member taking excessive photos. I wanted to be a photographer. Photos meant so much to me, mostly because there were parts of my life that were difficult for people to talk about that I wanted to remember so badly. Photos helped me do that. Over the last few years, something changed. I stopped taking as many pictures, and I’m in even less.
No Memories Frozen In Time
I lost my mom when I was 22 years old. We had a terribly rocky relationship my entire life, which also meant we...
Early 2020: If you were like me, TikTok sounded like a playground for teens and those in their early 20’s. Catchy songs and dances were the last thing on my mind back then. I was more focused on virtual schooling our two children and the financial well-being of our family. Hard pass on the Savage Love. I needed sanity and clarity more than I needed to learn how to dance with my arms like my 12 year old does.
Then, for whatever reason mid-year, I downloaded it. Probably out of desperation for a change in scenery. I fully expected to hate it as much as that other social media platform with the ghost as its icon. I literally could not...
The second I feel like I’ve got a category of motherhood down, I get thrown through a loop. Either our schedule changes or my daughter hits a new phase. Motherhood is an ever-changing journey.
However, I do feel like I’ve consistently had the cleanup category just short of mastered.
I realized early on that how my house looks has a huge impact on my mood and patience. I care about my home feeling like a refuge, not a place where I see a huge to-do list the second I walk in the door. On the same note, I want to spend more time being home, not cleaning my home. We've gotten pretty good with efficiency around here. Here’s how:
Toy Rotation
I...
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