It doesn’t feel like it has been 11 years since I brought home my first born. I had no clue about the journey we had ahead of us. There was nothing I had read or heard from other people that could prepare me for the real life experience of motherhood. To truly experience motherhood with all its up and downs, you have to live it and be present. It is an adventure that stretches you out of your comfort zone and truly humbles you.
The world that I am raising my children in has changed so much since I was a little girl. As their mother, I have a responsibility to teach and provide them with the right tools and knowledge to flourish in this rollercoaster of a world. Below are a few things I want my children to know:
Their best is Enough. They are Enough.
I want them to know their self-worth and have unconditional love for themselves. I know the struggles with constant self-doubt about my own abilities as a wife, friend, and mother and don’t want my children to be in this constant fight of limited belief in their abilities. I want them to have the biggest dreams and the ambition to fulfill those big dreams!
Society seems to be obsessed with pointing out our faults. Social media is the worst at making us feel inadequate. I want to break that cycle with my children, I want to help them find their strengths and point out the qualities that make them unique and special.
I’m their BIGGEST fan!
I want my children to know that I will always be their biggest supporter and believe in them. I will celebrate in their achievements as well as help them navigate through the tough parts. I want them to know they can count on me to be there when they need that extra emotional support. I won’t let my own thoughts overshadow something they are passionate about.
Mistakes are inevitable.
I want to raise independent thinking children. I want them to know it is okay to ask questions and try new things. I want them to make their own choices and experience triumphs and let downs. I want them to know that mistakes are inevitable, but to give themselves grace and look at any mistakes as a way to grow.
Just be a good human.
I want them to have integrity and be honest with others. I want them to keep their word. I want them to be kind and have empathy for others. I want them to have an excellent work ethic and a strong sense of self-discipline. I want them to know the importance of standing up for themselves and not let others walk all over them. I want them to have self-respect and respect for others.
My door is always open.
Having open communication with my children and building a strong relationship with them is so important. I want them to know that I will always be there for them. I want my children to know that I love them unconditionally and that my heart is always open for their feelings, whether they need a shoulder to cry on or high five celebratory dance.
My goal is that my children know how to be genuine, kind, and overall good humans.