I choose to LOVE you

I think we can all agree that being in a relationship is hard. In all relationships, whether with friends, our children, or our spouse, they take work. There is this odd assumption by society that once you “fall in love” with the right human, you will live in perfect harmony. That somehow, once you say I DO, it gets easier and you will live happily ever after.

Well friends, I am here to tell you that’s a LIE. 

I have been in a relationship with my husband for 15 years. We have had good times, great times and really really rough times together. We have had to figure out how to make sure our kids are taken care of on days when we are not taking care of ourselves like we should be. On top of being parents, we are also spouses to each other and DAILY we tick each other off. Sometimes it is something small … not putting away clothes where they should go, etc. Other times, we hurt each others feelings … we say something that we cannot take back. After all, we are both human. 

There are days I don’t like my spouse. There I said it. I spend every day with him but I don’t always LIKE him.

Don’t worry, he knows this. The thing is, there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t love him. I love him for who he is, the good and the bad. I love that he knows exactly how to tick me off and chooses not to. I love that he honors me as his wife and takes care of our family with every part of his being. 

I choose to love him every day, every hour some days. Loving him is a choice … it is not a magic feeling that I wake up with every morning. I wake up and consciously make the decision to love and show love to my husband today.  My commitment is to him – to love and honor him.

At the end of each day, I choose to breathe, be thankful and choose to continue loving him.  

Tiffany is happily married to her high school sweetheart, Desmond. Together they get to play the roles of Mommy and Daddy to Micah, a gifted Math Wiz of a teenager who is always making people laugh, and Keilyn, a spunky, flower loving, dancing girl who will stop and talk to anyone she meets. She was born and raised in Baton Rouge and has Cajun blood running through her veins. She works full time outside of the home in business administration. She started the journey of motherhood young but wouldn’t have it any other way. Her children have taught her to laugh, play and that sometimes it’s ok not to have a plan! She has a passion for teenagers and is an active mentor in her church’s youth group. In her rare free time she enjoys shopping, coffee, and date nights with her husband. She believes that everyone has a story to tell and enjoys meeting new people, making people laugh, and spending time with friends and family.


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