Playing Hooky :: The New Date Night

I share my birthday with my twin three year old girls, and this year it was going to fall on the weekend of the school fair. With the twins’ birthday party scheduled for the next weekend, date night options for my birthday were very limited. So when my husband Matt asked what I wanted for my birthday, I suggested spending a weekday together. Matt had Columbus day off, and I had a personal day burning a hole in my pocket. It made so much sense. We would wake up and start our usual routine of dropping off the kids at school. Then, instead of going to work, we would meet up for breakfast and take it from there.

date nightIt was a glorious day. We had a three hour breakfast at the new Ruby Slipper Cafe, went to an 11am movie and wandered around a bookstore, all while being able to talk uninterrupted or sit in peaceful silence. After such a nice day together, I have decided to start a campaign to make playing hooky the new date night.

1. You don’t need a babysitter.

Disclaimer: This reason is only valid for parents of children who are in school/daycare. If you have vacation or holiday time available and a place to send your kids, there is no extra cost or coordination involved in securing childcare. Having three kids means that we are already over budget before walking out the door if we have to get a babysitter. Taking that expense off the table definitely put us in a better mood.

2. The date is longer.

We spent a full eight hours alone together. These days, the only time that happens is while we are sleeping. Because date nights start in the evening, there are only a few good hours available to hang out. The night can become rushed and sometimes forced. Matt said that his favorite part about the day was not feeling that need to rush home to relieve a babysitter or family member. It really helped him to relax and have a good time.

3. There are no annoying crowds.

Matt and I played hooky on a Monday. It was almost like we had the whole city to ourselves. There was no wait for a table, and the movie theater was practically empty. It felt like a date on The Bachelor.

4. You get to just hang out.

Remember the days when you and your significant other could do the simple things together, like grocery shop or go to the gym. With small children, there is a divide-and-conquer mentality that often has one parent on kid duty while the other runs errands. I mean, you can try to run errands with kids, but it usually ends up like this. Attempt at your own risk.

5. It feels sneaky.

Regardless of the fact that you submitted a request to your boss for review, got it approved, and are getting paid for it, not being at work on a work day feels a little naughty. It wasn’t quite the same high-energy adventure as Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, but it was good enough for a couple of overworked parents of three small children.

6. You’re not tired.

I don’t know about you, but my average day starts with a 6am alarm and ends with a flop on the couch at 8pm. This cycle is not conducive for a dinner date. Inevitably, my husband and I spend most of our night time dates taking turns yawning and staring off into space. We know we need the together time, but we are so tired.

7. Afternoon delight.

Empty house? Check. Mid-day energy? Check. No more explanation needed.

8. There’s no parenting guilt.

The kids are at school or daycare just like any other day. You’re not cutting into time with them by taking off with your spouse, because this is already scheduled time away. I really try not to feel guilty when I’m away from my kids on weeknights and weekends, but I’m a mom and that’s what I do. I never felt an ounce of guilt the entire day which was definitely one of my favorite parts of the day.

While I wouldn’t recommend taking a day off every time you want to go on a date with your significant other, the occasional hooky day should definitely be added to the rotation.

Mandy grew up in Baton Rouge and graduated from LSU with a degree in Anthropology. In an attempt to figure out what do with an Anthropology degree (seriously, what do you do with it?!?), she moved to DC and received a masters degree in Forensic Science at George Washington University. Still at a loss for what she wanted to be when she grew up, Mandy moved to Austin, TX. Over the course of seven years, she built a successful(ish) jewelry design business, met some of her favorite people ever, imported her now husband from Baton Rouge, and made the decision to move back to Baton Rouge to start a family. Since then, Mandy has worked for a jewelry designer, a CPA, and now a financial advisor. And in between, she was a stay at home mom to three feisty, but sweet daughters, two of which are twins. Her girls love to dance and sing just like their mom, and Mandy's dream of a possible girl version of the Hansons or a Judds-like situation is becoming more of a reality every day. In the meantime, she is pouring her creativity into her writing which can be described as honest, funny and little bit snarky, just like Mandy. You can check out more of her musings at Tantrums and Twirls.



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