Lately, my anxiety has been in overdrive. Maybe it is the beginning of spring / summer activities, the fact that I am searching for the “perfect” high school for my son or work being work. I am not sure of the exact reason; all I can tell you is that it has been rough.
Balancing being a flawed human raising small humans and trying to keep it all together is not for the weak. We as women feel like we need to do ALL the things. We need to make sure everyone in our family is taken care of. We worry about our friends that need us. Sometimes we even worry about people around the world and what we should be doing.
When those days come and you feel totally and completely overwhelmed, stop and breathe.
As I have journeyed through the past few weeks, what I have learned is that I need to be on that list of being taken care of. Looking back on the past years as a parent and wife, I can see that our life comes in phases. Some of those phases we were thriving – we were all happy, healthy (physically and mentally) and good. Other times, we were struggling … we were in a survival phase
and making it work.
For me, in my survival phase, I accept that sometimes everything doesn’t get done. Sometimes, my kids eat fast food or watch You Tube for more than a reasonable amount of time in day. They do this because I need to survive; I need to breathe and I need a moment to myself.
Please know that the pressure I feel, I put on myself. I make myself feel like I need to do EVERYTHING. When in reality, I really just need to love my kids and husband, spend time with them and allow ourselves to just be.
Friends,
The next time you are in a phase of exhaustion, remember that it is ok for other things to fall short. You are beautiful and loved just how you are and you are the best mother for the kid(s) that you have.
Love,
Another Exhausted Mama
