The Weight of Being Full-Time Everything and Wearing All of the Hats

I’m a full-time mom. A full-time wife. A full-time friend. Sister. Sister-in-law. Cousin. Daughter. Daughter-in-law. Co-worker. The list goes on.

It’s a lot of hats to wear, especially when you aren’t able to take one off. I don’t always feel the weight of everything I do, but sometimes, it hits me like a ton of bricks. And usually, it’s in the form of guilt.

How did I miss a good friend’s birthday? Am I absent in my sibling’s lives and is it my fault? Did I really need to yell when my daughter spilled her milk? 


It creeps in every day and in every form. Sometimes small and sometimes big, but it’s always there in some form or fashion. It’s something that I feel the weight of often.

How am I supposed to be the perfect mom, supportive wife, best friend, attentive sister, fun cousin, loving daughter, and dependable co-worker every day?

I can’t be, but I’m trying. Why? Because I want to be full-time in all of those things. I don’t want to take off any of the hats. It’s those things that make me, me.

And it’s the combination of those titles that make me a better person.

Because I am a full-time mom, I’m a better full-time co-worker. Because I am a full-time wife, I am a better full-time daughter. Because I am a full-time sister, I am a better full-time sister-in-law.

So when the guilt comes sneaking back in, I acknowledge it and then continue to focus my energy on where I am, what I am doing, and what I am saying.

Because where I am is where I am supposed to be, and embracing the current full-time “hat” I am wearing will only strengthen every other full-time aspect of my life.

Tiffanie Pitre is a wife and full-time working mom to a three-year-old (Norah) and one-year-old twins (August and Millie). Tiffanie was born and raised in New Orleans, but has been calling Baton Rouge home since 2004 when she enrolled at LSU. Upon graduating from the design program, she started working at the advertising agency Xdesign, where she now leads the team as Art Director. Tiffanie and her husband Stefan are always looking for new things to do as a family, and never let multiple backpacks, strollers, and bags weigh them down.


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