Why We’ve Nixed the iPad {For Now}


I am definitely not anti-technology. I’m a big TV and movie fan, and I love Facebook and Pinterest. I’m a frequent Instagram-er. Most evenings after my baby goes to sleep you can find me in bed reading on my Kindle app or binging on Netflix. I’m plugged in. Aren’t most of us these days? But recently, I’ve watched my son get more and more familiar with and become attached to certain technologies – and I discovered that I’m just not okay with that.

Everyone has to make their own decisions about their kids and how much technology they are exposed to and at what ages. I truly don’t think that there is a hard and fast line drawn at a certain age where technology is appropriate for all children. But I know that it was too early for my son.

William has never been very interested in technology before. He has been a big bookworm, loving being read to and dutifully ignoring the television when my husband and I are watching it. And I have to say, this didn’t always thrill me, even though I knew it was a good thing. On days when William wouldn’t even let me finish emptying the dishwasher, I envied parents who could put on their kid’s favorite show and be guaranteed 30 minutes or an hour of time to themselves.

A couple of months ago, my husband and I took William on a trip overseas with my family. I was very nervous about how he would behave on such a long flight, and I wanted to be as prepared as possible in order to keep him entertained. So I asked around and downloaded a few recommended iPad games for William, hoping that may do the trick.

From the very beginning, William had a weird reaction to the iPad games. It took us by surprise because he had played a simple game before and enjoyed it. But these games were more advanced. He took to them very quickly (it’s kind of scary how intuitive these devices are, even to toddlers), but he also became very frustrated when he had trouble with them, more so than when he had trouble with a toy or non-electronic game. They kind of made him crazy, yet he still wanted to play frequently.

I had every intention of only allowing him to play the games while traveling, but I began experiencing the slippery slope to which many fall victim. I’m pregnant and early on found myself running low on energy and patience when William became fussy or demanding. It made it hard to say no to him when he asked to play on the iPad because I knew he would fuss, and I just didn’t want to deal with the whining and crying. Yep, not the best parenting, just being honest. So I kept rationalizing, saying to myself, I’ll just let him play when he wakes up in the morning and after his nap or I’ll only let him play for 10 minutes at a time. But every time I saw him playing, and sometimes getting frustrated and fussy with the games, I felt disappointed in myself. He has tons of toys and books, and I’m home with him – there is no reason he should be parked in front of a screen at this age.

Then one night, William had a difficult night. He’s not a great sleeper in the best of circumstances, but I’m pretty sure he was teething and he was up a lot of the night crying. And one time when he woke up, and I was walking him around the house, I saw him reach for the iPad and become more hysterical when I wouldn’t let him play on it. And I was done. I vowed that for the foreseeable future, he would not play any more iPad games.

The next morning, before he woke up, I made sure my iPad was stashed away where he couldn’t see it. And though he did ask for it a couple of times that day, I just cheerfully told him, no, we’re not going to play with the iPad, let’s play with _______” and then I would name one of the many other options available to him that didn’t involve electronics. And he was actually pretty easy to distract and redirect. Several days later, I knew I had made the right decision. Things were already more peaceful in our daily routine, and I realized how much anxiety I had been experiencing surrounding that stupid tablet – knowing that it was only a matter of time before he got frustrated and pitched a fit or pitched a fit because I took it away from him. Within a few days without it, he stopped asking for it altogether.

I’m not about to tell anyone when or how to expose their kids to technology, but this was one of those “be kind, rewind” parenting moments for my husband and me, when we realized that we had exposed William to something too early and chose to remove it from his daily routine. Raising a kid, we are quickly learning, doesn’t come with a handbook, and sometimes all you can do is back up and change direction. We have no plans to live like the Amish and bar William from electronics forever, but we will be more cautious in the future about when we choose to introduce new things to him. Lesson learned!

At what age did you start introducing your kids to electronics and technology?

Emma is mommy to one-year-old William and wife to Bill. She was born and bred in Baton Rouge, attending Episcopal High School, the Manship School of Mass Communication at LSU and the LSU Law Center. Married since 2010, she is loving her new life as a mother. She is an attorney but has limited her practice for now so she can stay home with William full-time, and she feels so fortunate to be able to do that. She is learning as she goes, rejoicing in every milestone and happy moment as well as working her way through the challenges that come with parenting. When she gets a chance, she loves reading, writing, and watching movies. She and Bill are both lucky enough to have their families close by and love spending time with them. She looks forward to seeing her little boy grow and eventually expanding her family. Motherhood has been the most fulfilling role of her life.


  1. I couldn’t agree more. My daughter is 4 and my husband and I are in our 40’s. Obviously we didn’t grow up with that technology and although we are “connected” in a minimalist way..it is not a big part of our lives. Ava uses our ipad for movies on long trips (not during day to day driving) and has a Leap Pad with a few games she asks for maybe twice a month. The pediatrician said a child her age should have no more than 2 hours of any screen time a day. I’m happy to say that isn’t a problem for us on most days. She doesn’t even have a tv in her room. We have friends with kids (ages 5&6) that are absolutely ADDICTED to an ipad. These children lose their minds when not allowed to play.
    Ava will have to do some testing to get into the private school and I had a small panic attack when I found out it would be done on an ipad. I was worried she hadn’t had enough interaction with one..then I went to pick her up at my mother-in-laws’ house and found them on the couch playing games on one..I calmed down, lol.

  2. Words cannot express how much I love this. It is exactly how I feel. We are pretty anti screen time in my house when it comes to our kids (twin 4 year olds and a 2 year old) and it is directly related to the change in their behavior whenever they get even a little screen time. It’s not that I’m anti technology, it’s just that I want something different for them at this age and want to wait until they can self moderate a little better and realize when to stop. And because I am too lazy of a parent to be a strict monitor, I choose to say no to it all, instead of just a little. I feel like this post summed up our choices perfectly.

  3. I have to agree with you, wholeheartedly. My 8yo son has CP and the Kindle (and the ever-popular Angry Birds) greatly helped him with his dexterity, and for that I thank the world of technology.

    BUT, I’ve learned that Nicholas (and probably “normal” kids too) gets too much instant stimulation. He has problems focusing in class. He stops playing whole games and just jumps to the part that gives him a kick. He throws temper tantrums in stores, trying to prompt me to quiet him with my phone or the Kindle.

    I have taken it away for long periods of time and watched as his focus improves. My focus is worse off, of course, because he’s not squirreled away playing as much, but I’m more at peace because I’m less worried about over-stimulation and what that might be doing to his already affected brain!

    I relent at times – it’s almost unavoidable. But I quickly see the same symptoms appear, and it just makes me more resolute. The electronics are for very short and infrequent periods of necessity.


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