They are getting older. They turn one. We are trying to get ready for the day. We are rushing to put our clothes on and their clothes on, walking around half-dressed. It becomes a habit that we don’t even think about. We are just doing what we can, trying to get out the door and to where we need to be on time. Most of us have been there.
Now, time has gone by, and they are age three. Is it appropriate for them to still be in the same room with us while we are changing? While we are in the bathroom?
What age do we tell them no?
This topic came up recently when my preschool-age son was in the bathroom with me. He came in the bathroom to ask mommy a question. I remember his dad asking me, “When will your son stop being in the bathroom with you?” The question really caught me off guard because I honestly did not think about it. I just stopped and asked myself “what age?”
I decided to think more about it and to start having “the talk” with my son.
This talk may be different for every family. For me, I focused on the issue of privacy. I was very consistent and firm and explained to my son why he cannot be in the room or bathroom if I’m getting dressed or taking a bath. He is still young, so I approached this situation very slowly and patiently with him. But even though he is young, I wanted to bring the topic up instead of surprising him one day telling him to “get out” when we never had that talk about respecting each other’s privacy. As our children get older, I want them to know that mommy respects their privacy just as they should respect my own.
It’s good that this question came up because now I can begin to look at other things that I might need to stop doing. Things that have just been a habit that I don’t even think about. These are things that we just do as moms to get through. This was my time to stop and make a change and, hopefully, at the age of ten, my son won’t be barging in on me unannounced.