Why 30 is Truly NOT the New 20 (And We Know It!)

We all hear the sayings and read the memes about how 30 is the new 20 and 40 is the new 30 and so on. We read them and we all know that those people are LYING! 

When you are 20, you take Advil because you have cramps or a headache. When you are 30, you take Advil because the joint you never knew existed between you elbow and your forearm now hurts so badly you can’t think straight!  

In your 20’s, you stay out late with your friends and get up the next day, splash water on your face and you’re fresh as a daisy. In your 30’s, you get up, look in the mirror and wonder why your grandmother is in your bathroom mirror. 

We all know there is a difference between being 20 and being 30, but here are 6 reasons why that will make your day! 

1. You have good sense. 

You refuse to make certain mistakes over and over. You think things through and weigh your options. The days of being blindly impulsive are fading and your credit and bank account thank you! 

2. You’re not broke. 

Speaking of money, you probably are some sort of career track. Money tends to be more abundant in our 30’s, at least more than it was in our 20’s. We no longer live on ramen; we can have steak every now and then. 

3. You have good friends. 

In your 30’s, relationships become more meaningful. Once you are married for a while, you truly can find time to invest in the other relationships that bring quality to your life. Your friends become extended family. They are trustworthy and great resources for advice on business as well as family. 

4. Your friends aren’t broke! 

Remember those friends we just mentioned. Well they are more financially sound now too. Usually if you plan a trip or activity together, it won’t get cancelled because someone spent all of her money on a new handbag or pair of shoes. Cancellations will only happen because a kid is ill or had something come up. You will be able to plan and do more extravagant things, and get this sometimes your friends will even pay! 

5. You will listen to your mother.          

You finally learn that your mother really was right, and you find comfort in a lot of her advice and teachings. You still may not be ready to tell her, but you will find yourself sounding like her more and more every day. 

6. You learn not to care.

No, you really don’t care what other people think as much as you used to. 30 something’s set out on a journey to happiness and inner peace. This leaves very little time to be concerned about what other people think about you or your decisions. You don’t have a lot to prove to people, just more to prove to yourself. You won’t need to cut people off or post memes about not caring what others think because you just really won’t care. This is one of the most freeing parts of growing up. And this is what makes you excited for your forties! 

Strong willed and determined since a little girl, this mom of three, wife, worship leader, writer, and career woman, believes dreams come true if you do the work. Nikyla hails from St. Louis, Mo, the “show me” state. She is a graduate of Louisiana State University and Southern University. She is a certified teacher and currently teaches at Louisiana Connections Academy. Her time out of the office is filled with family, friends and faith. She adores her three children Kyre, K’mya, and Kris and has been married to her childhood sweet heart Remiah Trask for fourteen years. Nikyla is currently a worship leader at Anchor Chapel in Baton Rouge. She has always been passionate about the things she sets her mind to. Her story of victory over severe anxiety disorder, after her third child, is truly one you must hear to believe. It will transform the way you view people with mental illness and even the way you view yourself. She is the founder of the mental health campaign entitled Be Brave. Writing has become a form of therapy for her, and the stories she shares are always honest, heartfelt, and transparent. Read more of Nikyla’s Brave Blogs here.


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