Appreciating the Small Moments

Once I found out I was having a little boy, I was elated.  I heard it from everywhere, “Oh, boys just love their mommas!” I couldn’t wait for the kisses, snuggles, and crying for me and only me.  Call me a bit self-absorbed, but after 10 months of carrying the boy and 21 months of nursing, I was ready to sit back and soak up all the admiration.

Buuut that never happened.

My son is the biggest daddy’s boy that ever existed! And I’ll be honest, I’ve let a 2-year-old hurt my feelings from time to time as he scraped his knee and ran past me to reach for daddy and demand his boo-boo kisses.  Or when he wakes up in the morning and calls “daaaaddy!” Or more recently when we were playing catch, and once his daddy walked in the room, Judah reached for my glove and said, “Daddy play now.”


But, then I have to remind myself in those moments that my son is not here to make me feel needed or loved–and that it’s kind of wonderful to sit back and watch how sweet it is to see a little boy so entranced by everything his daddy does.

And once I just kind of get over myself, I quickly realize that I do have my moments.  They just aren’t what I expected–or in the company of many to see just how much I’m loved by the little guy. For example, every time I bathe him, he always asks me to sing his favorite sunshine song once he’s all wrapped in his towel and draped over my lap.  I sing it a few times and he just curls up and grins.  I took this moment for granted, assuming this was just part of his bathtime routine since his daddy bathes him more. But, when I asked Joel if he sang Judah any other songs after bathtime besides “You are My Sunshine,” he just looked at me puzzled and said, “Judah doesn’t ever ask me to sing to him after bathtime.”

I realized instantly that by comparing my role with my husband’s that I had robbed myself from seeing how special those small moments between bathtime and bedtime were.  I was meeting a need I didn’t even know he had.  As parents, we serve different roles and even those are going to evolve and change as our kids get older. In fact, I’ve been kissing a lot more boo-boos and wiping away tears these days, and it’s been wonderful.

So now when I’m drying off my baby boy at night and he looks up at me and asks, “Sunshine?,” I just kind of melt because I know that as off-pitched as I sound, he is happy as can be and wouldn’t want anyone else there but me.


Jenny lives with her husband, Joel, and their sons, Judah and Jonas, in Zachary, a suburb north of Baton Rouge. She works part-time as an editor and her favorite part of the week is when she gets to exchange her pencil skirt for yoga pants and pretend to be a SAHM for a few days. When she’s not toting her sons around town or saving her toddler's life one head dive off the couch at a time, she is designing invitations, stationery, and logos for local moms, brides, and professionals. Jenny’s been married since 2007, and she and Joel welcomed Judah into their lives in April 2012 and Jonas in March 2015. She loves to squeeze in as many date nights as possible and spends her free time chronicling her family’s adventures and recent designs on her personal blog, the Gilberts.


  1. I know your exact feeling! I have cried so many times over the past year because I have the awful mom guilt for working too much and then that turns into he doesn’t even know me thoughts! It is known that he is his daddy’s boy and will reach for him over me any day. But when I get to wake him up in the morning, his hugs are so tight and we sing “Rise and Shine” I know that those are our special moments. Hopefully one day I will not be working as much and can enjoy many more moments!

    • I feel your pain Brittany! The good news is that not only does he know you, but loves the heck out of you. 🙂 Its hard to see when they’re young and mom guilt from working is REAL, but as they get older, it becomes a lot more obvious how much they adore you and enjoy to have those special moments with you. Thanks for commenting!!

  2. So sweet, and so true!! I now have two boys, and am trying to soak up this brief period where my (6 month old) baby looks just to me. In no time, he will be right next to his big brother always wanting Daddy. But, no matter how much they ask for Daddy, there is absolutely no replacing Mommy. <3

    • So true Kristen! I always joke that I’ll get my day one day and until then I’ll just sit back and soak up all the free time when my son demands that his daddy to take him outside or to play trains with him. 🙂 Thanks for your comment!

  3. Um Jenny did you sneak in my house and watch my kids and hubby?
    My kids totally love my hubby more, but I need to remember to cherish your special times together.

    • Haha Allison! I think all the daddys get together and teach other daddys how to make their kids obsessed with them. I just take what I can get!


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