Dear Mama :: When You’re Struggling

I feel like I am finally coming up for air after a few months of being in a funk. I cannot tell you exactly what caused said funk but I was there. Most days when people asked how I was doing, I really wanted to respond with “surviving.” There was nothing major going on, we were our normal busy people, I just could not shake not feeling dragged down. I am coming out of that now. I feel like I am finally catching my breath. I like to remember that in life there are hills and valleys … I have been in a valley lately.

I came out of my funk with a mixture of girlfriend time away, remembering that sleep is important to our bodies and communicating clearly with my partner what I needed. That was what I needed this time to climb out of the valley I was in.

Maybe you are in a valley now or you have been recently. I have learned a few things as I am coming up from air that I think are worth sharing.

You are so loved. You are enough EXACTLY how you are. Not IF you do XYZ or change XYZ, exactly how you are right now! Push those negative thoughts out of your head.

You are the very BEST Mama to your kid(s)! They do not need a perfect or “Pinterest Mom,” they NEED YOU! They love you even when they like to tell you otherwise sometimes. They are learning how to express their emotions no matter their age and you are the safest person for them to be their true self with.

It is ok not to be ok. Say something, reach out to your family and friends, they really do want to help you!

I recently saw this meme on Instagram and it spoke to me. I have certainly felt burnt out lately. This for me was a reminder, we are NOT broken, we are simply resting. Rest is important for us to light the fire back.

Get your rest, Mama. This may look different for all of us whether that is an adult-only date night with our spouse, a nap on the couch when the baby naps, or hiring a babysitter for a couple of hours of peace. Find what works for you.

When you are stressed, breathe in for four counts then breathe out for four counts. Take one step at a time. You’ve got this. I cannot tell you exactly what to do to feel better and I cannot promise improvement immediately but I can promise that you will get there… you will feel like you are on a hill again.

With love,

Another Mama who is doing her best

Tiffany is happily married to her high school sweetheart, Desmond. Together they get to play the roles of Mommy and Daddy to Micah, a gifted Math Wiz of a teenager who is always making people laugh, and Keilyn, a spunky, flower loving, dancing girl who will stop and talk to anyone she meets. She was born and raised in Baton Rouge and has Cajun blood running through her veins. She works full time outside of the home in business administration. She started the journey of motherhood young but wouldn’t have it any other way. Her children have taught her to laugh, play and that sometimes it’s ok not to have a plan! She has a passion for teenagers and is an active mentor in her church’s youth group. In her rare free time she enjoys shopping, coffee, and date nights with her husband. She believes that everyone has a story to tell and enjoys meeting new people, making people laugh, and spending time with friends and family.


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