Filling Up Your Mommy Cup

Do you ever have those moments where you are weak, tired, and at the end of your rope? You just need that little boost to get you through the day?

A few days ago, the girls and I were finishing up our last few errands on a very busy day. I was completely exhausted and dreaming about a nap! Emmeline was on day 5 of sleepless nights, Ava was bouncing off the walls, and Daniel had barely been home between working 2 jobs and going to school. While we were heading home, three devastating realizations occurred to me. 1. Emmeline was asleep in her car seat so she would likely not nap once we got home. 2. It was later than I thought, so I shouldn’t put Ava down for a nap if I wanted bedtime to be unaffected. 3. Daniel was working at the fire station, so he would not be coming home to give me a much needed break. Suddenly, in my worn-out state, I became depressed. I didn’t know how I would muster the energy to finish the day. Honestly, I didn’t know how I would muster the energy to just get the girls in the house. It was bad. Just then, in my desperation, a praise and worship song came on the radio. The words seemed to speak to me in the state that I was in and held so much meaning for me in that moment.

As I drove down I-10 towards my house, I just allowed myself to give up all of my depression, exhaustion, and anxiety. And in that moment my “mommy cup” was filled. I felt as though new life had been breathed into me. I was renewed. It wasn’t a long-lasting renewal like a trip to the spa or a girl’s night out but it was just what I needed to make it through until bedtime. I was able to be a patient mommy for the next four hours until the girls were asleep!

mommycupMy instant renewal is praise and worship music but not everybody’s is. You have to find what works for you and seek those things when you are at your weakest. Maybe it is turning on a cartoon for the kids while you take a hot bath, bringing the kids to a park, or scheduling last-minute play date so you can have some grownup chit-chat. Whatever it may be, you need to find that one thing that will fill your cup, so you make it through those long days. Depression, exhaustion, and anxiety are not a place you want to be; and it is not the place your kids need their mom to be. Being a mom is hard but sometimes realizing we need help is harder.

What ways do you use to recharge and fill your “mommy cup?”

Lisa is a 29-year-old Baton Rouge area native. After high school, she applied for and auditioned with New York University’s Theatre Education program. Before she heard if she was accepted, she met the man of her dreams and never opened the letter from NYU! She instead remained close to home and attended LSU. In 2007 she married Daniel, a fire fighter. In 2010 she gave birth to their daughter Ava Elise, and then in 2013, she gave birth to their second daughter, Emmeline Margaret. They have suffered the loss of five pregnancies, which has helped shape their goals and ideas as parents. Lisa’s favorite thing to do is spend time with her family any chance she can. She practices gentle parenting and natural living. Her hobbies include cooking and decorating for any holiday. You will often find her and her family at festivals, parades, and any event with a good Swamp Pop band playing. She is an active member of the Diocese of Baton Rouge Catholic Engaged Encounter community, which holds retreats for engaged couples to help them be better prepared for marriage. More than anything, Lisa loves to laugh and smile and give glory to God.

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