Every time I have a baby, I am asked questions that make me scratch my head. But with the birth of my latest baby, I have been asked questions that just down right confuse me. I get that people don’t understand how it sounds, but really people, listen to yourself and see how crazy the question is! Here is a list of my favorite ridiculous questions.
“Is she a good baby?”
Well, that depends… What is a GOOD baby? What is a BAD baby? Are you asking if she sits peacefully and never cries? Does she nurse well? What? What IS a good baby? Being asked this question after my first two, I never thought anything of it. They were “good” babies by most standards. Was my 3rd baby easy? NO! Not. At. All. In fact, she has been my hardest by far. But I would still never deem her a “bad” baby. Would you tell someone their baby was bad? So why ask if she is good?!
“Is she sleeping through the night?”
Although I know some people have babies that sleep for long periods of time at a very early age, this is not the norm. I used to think people who said their babies slept through the night just left them to cry. To those women, I apologize. My second child showed me that some kids sleep exceptionally well, but most don’t. And that’s ok too! Since sleep is a cognitive function, babies will “sleep through the night” when they are ready. I just wouldn’t recommend asking a new mom, who is still adjusting to this new little life she is responsible for, if the baby is sleeping through the night. Chances are the baby isn’t, and in her sleep deprived state she may want to punch you in your face!
“Are you going to keep trying for a boy?”
So I realize I have 3 girls. I realize the thought of this is horrifying to some. It’s not to me. Okay, honestly it was a little horrifying for me too! But then I had 3 girls. I love each of my girls for the individuality. I love the pink! I love the loud shrieks! And I actually love the drama…probably won’t during the teenage years! Yes, I want more children. Boy or girl doesn’t matter to me. Happy, healthy, and loving does. I’m not going to set my next child up to be the disappointment if I have another girl. I’m going to love her the same…and buy some ear plugs…and save for another wedding!
“Was she planned?”
My youngest two girls are 17 months apart. Was my baby planned? Define planned? No, we were not “trying” but we weren’t “avoiding”. So yes, she was planned. We are adults. We knew what we were doing and what the result might be! But either way, how is that an appropriate thing to ask a new mom?!
“Do they have the same dad?”
I bet you are thinking, “Who would ask that?” I thought the same thing the first time someone asked me. Since then I have perfected the “did you really just say that” dumbfound look on my face. If you ever meet me in public, ask to see it! For the record, yes, all three of my girls have the same dad. I understand how my 4 year old who has dark hair and green eyes and is tall and slender for her height, looks different than my 20 month old who has blonde hair, blue eyes and is short and chunky. That does not give someone the right to ask that. It is called genetics! We are all different! And so what if they had different dads? Why is that necessary information that a stranger needs to know about me?!
These are just some of the questions people have asked me that cause me to chuckle on the inside. I know they are (usually) asked with good intentions. I have good intentions by not going Chuck Norris on them when they ask!