A man dear in my life recently posted this statement:
“Every mother of boys should be terrified that at anytime, any girl can fabricate any story without proof and ruin their lives.”
I was appalled. I was LIVID. I spoke out.
Because here’s the thing, just as we preach to the social media generation, nothing ever disappears. The boys, the men I’ve encountered in life, they leave a mark—good or bad. That creepy friend’s dad that gave me the roving once over? He still haunts me. That boy in middle school that groped me without asking? I still feel his dirty hands. My teacher in high school that held a boy to the wall & all but threatened his life for sexualizing me in class? He is still a hero in me eyes. My husband, who has had to deal with all this baggage? He respectfully walks land mines he didn’t lay.
As a mother, to both sexes, this quotes speaks on many levels. I don’t live in fear that my son would be falsely accused. I don’t even warn him. I speak truth into his life! I teach him respect & living above reproach. I teach him about permission and consent. I teach him that women are to be treated as humans. I don’t allow him to fall victim to the old adage that “boys will be boys.” No, I expect much more from him. You, son, will be good, kind, & just! You will speak for the powerless & fight for those that can’t or don’t feel they can fight for themselves. You will be the difference, the light.
As for my daughters, I will teach them I am always there. I will ALWAYS believe first. I will teach them to trust their gut. I will teach THEM to live beyond reproach. They will know their worth and their voice. I will tell them, they may not talk at first, they may be in shock, or confused, they may doubt themselves—but speaking out is fighting a fight that has been a long time coming. And I will stand by her at every moment. I will teach her to be good, kind, & just. She will speak for the powerless & fight for those that can’t or don’t feel they can fight for themselves. She will be the difference, the light.