Interracial Family: One Mom’s Perspective

There are a lot of qualities that went into picking my life partner: his patience with others (and myself), his faith in God, his integrity, his love for his family and his sense of humor. Something that I never considered was the race of my partner. I am lucky that my parents raised me to appreciate differences, ask questions about cultures and get to know people for who they are. In high school, I fell head over heels for a handsome football player whom I now call my husband. My husband is all of those things above plus more. He is also African American, and I am white.

Recently, the publicity surrounding the movie Loving has been making its way around Facebook. Loving is a movie that chronicles the story of a Virginia couple, Mildred and Richard Loving, whose illegal mixed-race marriage led to the landmark decision by the U.S. Supreme Court in 1967 to legalize interracial marriages nationwide. It got me thinking … less than 50 years ago, our marriage would have been illegal.

Whimage-1en our parents were teenagers, it was illegal to marry someone of a different race. I would like to say that my marriage is not any different than yours, but the truth is there are things that make my marriage unique, one of which is that we are a mixed race couple. Choosing to live in South Louisiana in an interracial relationship has its own set of obstacles. We love the South for the food, culture, and festivals but I find that here racism is something we experience daily. We have worked hard over the past 13 years to surround ourselves and our children with an open-minded, diverse, loving village that will help us raise two loving and accepting humans. We try our best to ignore the comments made at the grocery store or the awkward stares we get in restaurants. I have plenty of friends or acquaintances who find it hard to believe in 2016 that the strange looks still happen, but I promise they do. This is when I will suggest for this person to my daughter out in public for a couple hours to see how they are treated.

I believe my marriage is stronger because of the fights we go through together — the fights to love each other despite the comments made behind our backs and the fights with people who accidentally make racist comments in front of our

I want you to know that today in 2016, racism still exists. There are people who will not engage in discussion with my family because they make assumptions about who I am or who my husband is. There are kids at my children’s schools who wonder “what” my children are – by the way the answer to that is they’re kids who are loved VERY MUCH. Yes, racism exists, but there is hope. There are people out there who truly love people for who they are. There are also parents like you and me, and we can make a difference!

There are things that you can do to help bridge the racial divide in our country.

As a white Christian mom of interracial kids, I ask that you please watch what you say in front of your children. Kids pick up on subtle hints about the “bad guy” over there. Show your kids how to love everyone. Surround your kids with people of different races, religions, and backgrounds. Let your kids ask questions! The more you know and can share with your kids the better chance we have as a society to raise loving and accepting little humans. I just ask you to stop and think next time before you make a comment about someone’s appearance in front of your child. Let’s work together to spread love and mend this world together. 

Tiffany is happily married to her high school sweetheart, Desmond. Together they get to play the roles of Mommy and Daddy to Micah, a gifted Math Wiz of a teenager who is always making people laugh, and Keilyn, a spunky, flower loving, dancing girl who will stop and talk to anyone she meets. She was born and raised in Baton Rouge and has Cajun blood running through her veins. She works full time outside of the home in business administration. She started the journey of motherhood young but wouldn’t have it any other way. Her children have taught her to laugh, play and that sometimes it’s ok not to have a plan! She has a passion for teenagers and is an active mentor in her church’s youth group. In her rare free time she enjoys shopping, coffee, and date nights with her husband. She believes that everyone has a story to tell and enjoys meeting new people, making people laugh, and spending time with friends and family.


  1. Tiffany, thank you so much for your honesty! My fiance and I are also an interracial couple from the Baton Rouge area, and it’s good to know we are not alone. Like you, we pray that this world will continue to improve for our future children. Be blessed. 🙂

    • Joya, I’m convinced with people sharing love things will get better. Thank you for your sweet comment. Best wishes to you & your fiancé! ❤️

  2. Tiffany,
    Thank you so much for your honest words. I am an African American woman married to the love of my life who just happens to be white. We live in South Caroline with our 15 month old son and we strive to create a life for him that is full of diversity and openness. It’s not always easy living as we do in the south but our commitment to our son’s well being help us to push through. Stay strong!

  3. Joie,

    Together we will make our next generation FULL of love and happiness! Thank you for reaching out, I appreciate knowing we’re not alone ☺️


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