How do you grieve, cry, get through personal challenges while ‘the show must go on’… being a mom?
Mom is supposed to be the fearless emotional backbone of the family, the one our babies come to when they fall down and the one they want a hug from when their heart gets broken, but what happens when mom ‘breaks’?
Mom will physically keep going even when she is emotionally falling apart.
As a mother of three boys who has been through harder days than easier, childhood trauma and situational instability, the one thing I have learned through it all is just that… ‘the show must go.’
The important thing I have learned is emotionally sharing that journey with my children and being open. My kids are toddlers, so I do not exactly share my life with them, but I do ‘mother’ with a heavy heart. I have learned to focus on what is possible to make happen during those rough times while feeling my feelings.
I am a mother, but I have also held various leadership roles in my career. Having the ability to lead a household or a team with a heavy heart is a sign of what is modern. In more ways than one, people are seeking help and talking about their problems more than ever before. Gone is the ‘normal’ to put a wall around our feelings. When we are ‘real’ about what is affecting our lives, we find a way to show people around us, including our children, that being authentic is normal.
During my career in radio, there were many times that I cried about something seconds before speaking on a mic or on a stage, but I did it. I embraced challenges in my life and even spoke about it on the air.
I survive emotionally by sharing my story.
Being a mom who goes through tough times requires us to lead a conversation, lead recovery, and lead a strong family.