Being a Perfectionist and a Mom Don’t Mix Well. Choose One.

I want to do it all perfectly.

They say you only live once, so why not do it, right, right?!?!

The struggle is real. The constant overthinking and analyzing.

PerfectionistThe incessant self reflection and critical mindset.

The googling for a better way to eat, parent, and communicate.

Be the best at whatever you chose to be! Riiiiiiight?!?!

Y’all, my perfectionist mindset is turning me into a monster.

It was all okay when it was just me. I could ebb and flow based on what MY needs were. But now, as a wife with two toddlers, it feels like life is just pulling me in all the directions. With new changes and transitions happening so rapidly in our home, I feel like I can’t keep up most of the time and sometimes I just want to yell:

I CAN’T BE PERFECT

So…

I’m gonna stop.

Just like that, World. I quit. I quit with the need for perfection. (Okay, well I am working on it at least.)

It’s not going to be easy. And I am sure I will try hard to regain the reigns of control and try to make my world all neat and tidy again.

But for now, at least for today. At least for an hour or so. One step at a time. I am going to say no to the need for perfect.

My house doesn’t have to be immaculate. My kids might not always behave. My list might not get done. AND my hair – well let’s not get started on the state of my hair.

All that is “not” is no longer going to be a reflection of who I am.

Instead, I am going to dig deeper. See more clearly. Focus on the good.

What really matters?

Does my family feel loved today?
Do my children have pants on?
Have we supported our community today?
Have we smiled enough? Laughed enough?
Have I hugged and snuggled my loved ones enough?
Are we healthy?
Have we had good rest and meals today?
Have I taken care of the MAIN things that needed to be done today? Like, paying the bills … you know, the BIG stuff.
Are we living the JOY?

The garage is mess. And the HOA sent us a letter about our grass getting too high in between cuts. But, y’all, I can focus on being PERFECT all I want. All it does is steal my JOY.

So, I quit.

How do you cope with all the demands that life has to offer?

Marguerite is a teacher taking a break from the four walls of the classroom to teach her two beautiful boys (ages 3 and 1) in their home (as well as the park, library, grocery store, etc.). Most days, Marguerite can be found sharing in the simple joy of trying a new food or splashing in a puddle, drying tears from a scrapped knee, or trying to paint or garden with two babies at her feet. She is a huge advocate of early childhood development and a big supporter of the idea that our children are our future. She works each day to help foster an environment that helps her children grow into kind, productive citizens. Marguerite is also a big fan of community and the idea that “it takes a village.” Her husband, Nick, of six years and her are constantly looking to widen and deepen the community in their lives. Marguerite choses to write for RSMB in order to share with other moms how wonderfully messy her life can be and that no parent should feel alone in this journey of motherhood.

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