As the song goes, “I’m dreaming of a white Christmasss…,” but in my mind, I am currently picturing white sand and blue water. Unfortunately, the holidays can be a stressful time for many even though it is supposed to be a time for joy and celebrating the birth of our savior. It’s a time with lots of extra expenses and you still have all your usual expenses too. And the all too familiar Covid throws another grinchy wrench in it all. Basically, holiday stress + pregnancy hormones = recipe for Level 5 meltdown.
After a disagreement between my husband and I one evening, I found myself sitting on the couch and wishing we were back in Hawaii. We sort of spontaneously planned a trip to Maui a few months after our first son turned one. I remember being so nervous about leaving my little man, but this trip ended being exactly what me and my “big man” needed as a couple. It was like a second honeymoon. We were able to take our “mom” and “dad” hats off and just be the fun-loving couple we were when we first met.
Maui made it easy because it is absolutely breathtaking. The food was fabulous. We relaxed by the pool and on the beach. We took guided tours and explored the entire island. We went out at night! (LOL) It was truly an escape from reality. We were so blissful, we even joked about looking at real estate and moving the whole family. I DEFINITELY recommend going if you ever get a chance.
I think removing the “mom” hat gets harder with each child added to our family, but it is so important to take that time to reconnect with your spouse. I am certainly guilty of neglecting my husband at times because I’m so focused on the kids’ needs. I must do better. I want my children to see what a strong, healthy marriage is. It will make them better spouses (one day farrrr away!). Don’t be afraid to take that trip! You will come back renewed and be a stronger team.
Oh and I know I will totally miss this season of life one day when I look back. My kids are already growing way too fast. But I’m also looking forward to more “Maui’s” with Cody. Until then, I’ll leave you and yours with “Mele Kalikimaka” and a very Merry Christmas to you!