Mean Girls :: They’re Moms, Too!

Have you ever been that person who was never popular?

In school, I always got along with mostly everyone, but I was never in the popular clique. I never looked the part or played the part. And as a mom, I still don’t. I’ve always had a big heart that wanted to make everyone feel included and welcome. It’s always been my goal to be liked by the people I come in contact with. It’s who I am, and I get my feelings hurt when someone doesn’t like me. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve tried to accept that there are some people that just won’t like me and I have to be ok with that. No matter how old I get, I will never understand why people feel the need to be outwardly rude and ugly to someone else. It’s fine if you don’t like me or I don’t like you, but we are adults and if we are forced into a situation where we will be around each other, the least we can do is be polite.

I was in a situation recently as an adult, with children, where I was around someone that I know does not like me. This person has no reason not to like me other than the fact they think they are better than me. The situation happened because we have mutual friends. We were at an event and this person would not speak to me, stayed across the room and chatted with our friends, and acted like I shouldn’t have even been there. I have never felt so humiliated or alone in my life. I felt like I was dropped into the high school scene all over again. I felt like leaving, but I knew my children would have suffered because of that.

I have a “mom clique, we all do!”

We talk regularly, we have playdates, sometimes we even have nights out for just the moms. But I guarantee if you see me out with my “mom clique” we will be friendly smiling faces that would never be outwardly rude and ugly to someone. I actually had a situation earlier in the week where one of my friends had one of their friends meet us. I included her from the very beginning and welcomed her. I meet friends wherever I go, and I try to be friendly and approachable in life.

We are women who should treat other women with respect! We are moms that have a responsibility to raise little people to be polite and respectful big people. We shouldn’t teach them to exclude people because they don’t fit our mold. Being a mom is the hardest job I have ever held. Navigating through life while being responsible for someone else’s safety and well-being is hard! We should support each other, not shame or purposely leave each other out. I never want to make another mom feel the way I felt.

You truly never know what someone else is going through. There are people who are abused at home, have suicidal thoughts, are depressed, anxious, or maybe they just have something they are going through.

Do you want to be the person that makes them feel like they are somebody and mean something to this world? Or do you want to be the stuck up person in the corner that makes them feel like the smallest, most unworthy person in the room? Always remember, you can be friendly without being someone’s friend.

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