Mommy Deserves to Recharge

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Most moms feel super guilty about needing “me time.” And when we do make the choice to take that break someone else will come along and add to that guilt.  I’m always amazed at the plethora of comments on my husband’s social media posts telling him how much he deserves a break and saluting him for being a dad. However, if I dare to say, “I am tired,” I’m usually met with “that’s what a mom does.”

We have been conditioned to teach moms that they MUST burn both ends of the candle and be ok with it.  Especially if you’re a working mom … jobs expect 110% of you, kids need 200%, and a spouse wants 300%. At the end of the day, I’m usually left wondering how I can schedule time
for myself. Before we go any further, moms are not complaining when we say we need a break. What we are saying is, there is only so much of us, and it is absolutely impossible to pour from an empty cup. Yet, the expectation is to pour from a cup that is bone dry from meeting expectations. We are saying that we still need and want our village. We also want to be recognized for being a good parent. It’s not about validation, but rather about ridding the expectation that we are supposed to be ok with being burned out.

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This year, I want to not only see moms become more confident in taking time to recharge, but I want to see the village be more supportive of moms who need to do just that. Moms already judge themselves … we welcome you to not judge us and shame us for needing a moment. We want to normalize jobs that do not force us to choose work or our kids. Here’s a bonus: Mom will always choose her kids.

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In 2022, in the process of trying to be a superhero, a nurse, a counselor, a personal stylist, a personal paparazzi, a gourmet sous chef, a wife, a business partner, and a full-time working professional, and a whole plethora of other things, I forgot to take care of me. As a result, my mental health took a nosedive. Now I know some of the moms reading this believe that married moms have it SUPER EASY. Well, I won’t crush your fantasies. But I won’t fuel them either (you’ll catch that in the carpool). I allowed mom guilt to keep me from putting myself first. So, when I wasn’t trying to win over my supervisor, it was all about my husband and kids. While I don’t really subscribe to New Year’s Resolutions … I do fully plan to find out who “Dee” is again … not employee Dee, not Mommy Dee, and not Wife Dee. Just Dee … I encourage you to do the same.

And if you are fortunate enough to be a part of a momma’s village. . . remind her and help her, find time to recharge. You may be surprised at how far a little village support can go.

D'Andra Bradford Odom grew up in Jonesboro, LA. She swore to her parents that she would never live in Arkansas, Louisiana, Mississippi, or Texas. However, after completing a cooperative education assignment with IBM in Rochester, MN, she bravely returned to Louisiana to plant her roots. D’Andra earned a Bachelors from Grambling State University in Grambling, LA and a Masters from the rival school Southern University and A&M College in Baton Rouge, LA. However, the rivalry only lasts for one Saturday in November, the Saturday after Thanksgiving. D’Andra has a strong passion for public policy, social justice, and cooking. Therefore, it is no surprised that this self-proclaimed foodie met her husband, Chef Brandon Odom while trying a new spot, and ultimately co-founded Odom’s Kitchen (eatwithodoms.com). Together D’Andra and Brandon have two amazing children, Josiah and Corrinne. Josiah is the gentle and compassionate little gentleman. While Corrinne marches to the beat of her own drum. One of the things she loves most about being in Louisiana is providing her children with access to three living great-grandparents. Additionally, D’Andra and Brandon enjoy entertaining friends and family through food and laughs. She considers it an added bonus to be able to share and interact with other moms in the area. As it turns out this North Louisiana native found her roots through love in South Louisiana. A badge she wears proudly.

17 COMMENTS

  1. LOVE this article!! It is SO TRUE that all moms of every kind need some “me time!” Thank you for putting our thoughts into words to solidify the idea!! 💡

  2. Love this article!!!

    Me time is so important….

    I agree “Thank you for putting our thoughts into words to solidify the idea!! 💡”

  3. Facts!! So on point cousin. Love this article!!! ❤️

    Thank you for advocating practicality in 2023. Mom’s need to be reminded of this. It also teaches our kids balance and the importance of their own mental health when they see mommy practice those life skills.

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