As a busy mom, I put a lot of things before myself including my social circle. I feel as though my social life is always last. Everyone talks about how moms extend their arms for everyone else, but taking care of themselves is hard to come by. I understand that if I am not 100%, how can I be the best version of myself that I can be. Honestly, I thought I had my groove going, and I had a rock solid social life (some moms and some that are not) until I met the PTO moms, this past school year. Whew, that is a whole other breed of moms, in a good way. I just can’t keep up with them enough to be included.
I even podcasted about it before titled “I have no friends!” on my Mommy on the Geaux podcast. I should podcast about this topic but make it a part two.
I feel like I’m back in the dating world competing for attention in hopes that they “choose me” to hang out with. I’m definitely not the “cool mom.” I drive a dinged up Toyota Highlander with a shattered back light because I backed into a fence. I drink more than three cups of coffee a day, and I feed my boys cereal for dinner sometimes. A day in our family’s life is enough to make moms laugh.
I have tried countless times to be included in the PTO moms circle from taking on the title of Kindergarten Liaison this past school year, volunteering where I could, offering help up to the teachers many of times, and sending food to the teachers / admins. I even tried jumping into a group thread of some of the moms rotating carpool for next school year. I tried to fit in without being over the top, hoping that one of the PTO moms would scoop me under their wing, but instead I feel like I’m still sitting out.
I am slowly realizing that sometimes a mom’s tribe and the commonalities varies from mom to mom. I may not be the “cool PTO mom,” but I still have my tribe.