What Really Came First?

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Now what really came first.

What Really Came First?

You know that saying, “what came first, the chicken or the egg?” I don’t think anyone has ever figured it out. While packaging Easter gifts for my kids last month (yep I’m that mom) I began to have a similar thought. 

I was placing their items into bags and realized I had purchased my daughter a nice hot pink bag and my oldest son a blue bag. Then it hit me, my daughter doesn’t really love pink and my son isn’t the biggest fan of blue. In fact my baby girl’s favorite color is blue and my son is obsessed with guy clothes that come in pink. Go figure! 

Now I’m not particularly moved by their color preferences. My daughter is very feminine and my son is all boy, but I did ponder how times have changed. Or have they? Today we are exposed to gender neutral options and fluid gender clothing. We teach our children to be themselves and not just fall into social norms. I remember a time when a boy would have pitched a fit before being seen in a pink hat or shirt, and girls loved their pink tutus. 

Is it that kids are different or have we just made it acceptable for them to be their true selves? Maybe some boys have always liked pink and some girls would rather play with trucks than Barbie. Could it be that what seems new and somewhat odd about what’s gender appropriate today isn’t new at all? 

I’m not really sure what came first, the tolerance or the desires. Either way I’m so glad to be raising a son in a time where his pink hat or shoes won’t guarantee him a beating on the playground, and my daughter rocking her high tops and joggers is still considered a little lady. It’s nice to think that maybe our generation has made the world a little less scary and a place for all kids to just be themselves! 

Strong willed and determined since a little girl, this mom of three, wife, worship leader, writer, and career woman, believes dreams come true if you do the work. Nikyla hails from St. Louis, Mo, the “show me” state. She is a graduate of Louisiana State University and Southern University. She is a certified teacher and currently teaches at Louisiana Connections Academy. Her time out of the office is filled with family, friends and faith. She adores her three children Kyre, K’mya, and Kris and has been married to her childhood sweet heart Remiah Trask for fourteen years. Nikyla is currently a worship leader at Anchor Chapel in Baton Rouge. She has always been passionate about the things she sets her mind to. Her story of victory over severe anxiety disorder, after her third child, is truly one you must hear to believe. It will transform the way you view people with mental illness and even the way you view yourself. She is the founder of the mental health campaign entitled Be Brave. Writing has become a form of therapy for her, and the stories she shares are always honest, heartfelt, and transparent. Read more of Nikyla’s Brave Blogs here.


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